Can I be honest and vulnerable with you for a minute? Motherhood and marriage have been the two things in my life that have caused me to understand my depravity as a human being the most. Constantly putting others needs above my own, giving up things I want to do for the sake of others, and being available at the drop of a hat has caused me to see sides of myself that I really didn’t even know where there. I’ve seen how selfish and self centered I truly am. I’ve seen how little patience I actually have. I see how quickly I can anger. Motherhood and marriage have caused me to understand how much of a sinner I am, and how I truly am in need of God’s grace. Can you relate? How thankful I am that He so freely offers this sweet grace.
Do you find that it is fairly easy to serve others outside of your home? At work or at church? You’re good. Even at a store. I can give and give and give of myself in those places, but as soon as I walk through the door at the end of the day, I sometimes somehow flip a switch from a heart with a willingness to serve to serving out of a sense of obligation. Serving my people is sometimes harder than serving a stranger. It’s a hard realization, but too often true.
I want intentionally invest in and serve my people. I don’t want to give only leftover energy and service to my family. I want to give them my best. I want to meet their needs. I want to show them Jesus.
You too? Well first, who are your people? Simply put, your people are those you really do life with. Maybe it is your children, your husband, your parents, or close friends. Maybe you live with them and maybe you don’t, but they are the people who are most important to you in this life. Get out a piece of paper and write down or their names. (for real…)
So how do we invest in our people? We meet their needs. It may be physical needs, spiritual needs, or emotional needs. We decide to put their needs ahead of our own- and do so with a glad and willing heart. The verse below challenges me to do just that.
“Love must be sincere. Hate what is evil; cling to what is good. Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:9
That requires us filling ourselves with more of Jesus and less of us on a daily basis.
John 3:30- “He must become greater, I must become less”.
Identify a current in need for each family member you wrote down.
1) Pray for each member of your household and/or immediate family. Ask that God reveals their needs to you and ask Him how you can best serve them. Maybe there is conflict between you and a family member. Pray that God would redeem that relationship and that He would reveal ways for you to serve that person as a bridge of reconciliation.
2) Intentionally serve one person in your family today. It could be something as simple as ironing a shirt for your husband, washing that to-go cup or water bottle you know your people love but you hate cleaning all the little pieces. Maybe it is you suggesting that your kids drag out the board games and really play with them in the floor. Maybe it’s cooking a special meal. Whatever it is, do it with a sincere and glad heart, as if you are doing it for the Lord.